Lessons from failures

Failure is a close frined of ours. It visits us very often and expresses its oneside love. We have to analyse and know more about our this shyless friend. Robin Sharma wrote a book "The Greatness Guide" where he also discusses about the failures and the significance and importance of failures in the life. Robin sharma is one of the world's top success coaches and he will be coaching big organizations like NASA, Wyeth,Mircosoft, Nike,FedEx etc. Robin sharma is author of another best seller "The monk who sold his Ferrari". Incidentally, robert kiyosaki also dwells on the same idea of learning from failures and taking a failure as a part of success strategy.Robin Sharma says "nothing fails like success". When you succeed, you get complacency, arrogance and that starts loosing the success again. Downslide starts. Why people , after succeeding , would not try new methods. Because of fear of failure. They are afraid of loosiing what they have. But this itself is a secret enemy which push you down. He advises to constantly innovate, try new methods, improvise your methods and operations. Fear of failure prevents us from attempting a lot of things. Without attempting it, you can never have it in life. Robert kiyosaki says that only after falling down many times, we learnt cycling. Only after tubling down, we started walking. If we are afraid of these things, we can never walk nor ride a bycycle. As per kiyosaki, the present education system is such that it prevents failure, it always want to succeed. Without failures, success is not possible. A successful business man will deinitely have two to three failures behind him. Rich dad says that unless you fail in three businesses, you can not have a successful business, to be proud of. Robin sharma suggests anyone can become genius and proposes a formula to achieve it. The formula is Focus+Daily improvement+Time=Genius. You have to identify the merits in you, polish them. Focus on them, and daily improve it . In a span of 3 to 5 years, you would be a great person in that area. What is failure? Failure is not achieving what is originally meant for that operation. A rocket fails in the middle and burns in the sky. A film fails to achieve grand success. These are examples of failures in day to day life. But the deciding factor behind a failure is the motive, or objective only. If the rocket is aimed at burning in the sky, then the above even would be a success. If the film is made with a bet that it wont cross the gross collection so and so, then it is success and the producer wins the bet. So, the failure can also be a success by changing our view or the deciding factor or yardstick. A student failed in the exam. On re evaluation, he got few more marks added (fault in sub totalling) and he passed. His old answer script only passed him. Or if the examination board lowered the pass mark, then this student would pass,making his failure into pass. Here he has not done any additional work or changed any thing in the event or process. The yard stick has been changed. The motto, object has been revised. Thus A failure may be the other side of a coin. If you go on tossing, heads will definitely come.

Emotional Intelligence

When we are determined to get more wealth, we should condition ourselves. This is obviously stressed by kiyosaki in his excellent book Cash quadrants. The real capitalists are not carried away by emotions. They will have emotional intellegenc as well as financial intellegence. When they take decisions for investment, they take risks. When they loose they do not get upset but learn some lessions from that failure. Similarly when they gain profit , then too they will not be jumping but would be very calm as if it is part of the game. This is an important quality to achieve anything as per robert kiyosaki. The same was also stressed by the author of millionaire's mind. He says that you can not become rich through your efforts if the same are driven by anger, revenge or sorrow. You should be poise while playing the game. In philosophy too, Lord krishna, the ultimate master of philosophy stresses that you should be calm in gain and profit. "Samam kritwa labha nasthau..." he says which means, take equally the loss and gain, the pain and joy. The person who takes all the duals as equal is called "muni" or "sthita prajna" which means the person with wisdom. So, it can be infered that either to achieve some thing in this materialistic world or in spiritual world, one should become equanimous and then attempt. The decisions should be made with logic but not with sentiment. Most of the times, sentiment plays greater role and it dominates 80 percent of our decisions. In such cases , it is difficult to grow rich. Robin sharma says, emotions lead to actions where as logic leads to conclusions. When we want to do some thing, emotion is definitely required , but we should be watchful. one important lesson what robert kiyosaki gives is, to achieve a goal we should follow the priniciple of BE, DO, HAVE. That means, if you set any goal, first you should become that person mentally. You should change your thinking, habits into that role. Then do your action plan. As a result, you will have the result. This is true for any goal like becoming physically fit, earning wealth or becoming a spiritual master.